dba_afish said:
but honestly, I feel everyone would be happier if they, just kinda, cared a bit less. I mean-- let yourself exist, learn who you are on your own time, and, like, you can use words to describe who you are, but don't get attached to a lable, and certainly don't let yourself be defined by what words you think apply to you or not.

What matters is your moment to moment attraction, anyway. Having a label can help you make sense of it, but as you said if you treat the words as defining your behavior then you've got it backwards.

Leafdapple said:
What matters is your moment to moment attraction, anyway. Having a label can help you make sense of it, but as you said if you treat the words as defining your behavior then you've got it backwards.

in my opinion lables should mostly be used externally, meaning that they should be used to make it easier for people (yourself included) to understand who you are.

you're pretty much never going to find a lable that perfectly describes who you are and is also coherent. and even if you found a lable that perfectly describes who you are in a single moment, things can change, you can learn more about who you are, and discover things and ideas you'd never considered before.

just try to present yourself truthfully and don't worry about it too much.