What's your experience with online dating?
What websites did you use, was it worth it, etc.

I just created a parship profile and think about whether I should pay for a premium account or not, because there are some guys that look cute (photos are blurred though) and they gave surprisingly cute answers to the parship questions. I'd probably chicken out and be unable to write to anyone of them though...

why would you pay for online dating when you can just go out and meet people for free

ippiki_ookami said:
why would you pay for online dating when you can just go out and meet people for free

I am afraid to openly live my homosexuality.
And where would I even meet gay guys?
Yes I could just tell everyone I meet that I am gay, instead of just my close friends but I don't want to do that.
Going to a gay bar? I am a wet towel in new situations and groups where I don't know the majority. Going to a gay bar would kill me. My heartrate already quickens just thinking about it.
I can play out my strengths and feel secure in one on one conversations or if I am surrounded by people that I know and accept me.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
I am afraid to openly live my homosexuality.
And where would I even meet gay guys?
Yes I could just tell everyone I meet that I am gay, instead of just my close friends but I don't want to do that.
Going to a gay bar? I am a wet towel in new situations and groups where I don't know the majority. Going to a gay bar would kill me. My heartrate already quickens just thinking about it.
I can play out my strengths and feel secure in one on one conversations or if I am surrounded by people that I know and accept me.

Or maybe you should just work on not being such a wet noodle first, since it's obvious that the last thing you need is a relationship.

Digital_Kindness said:
Or maybe you should just work on not being such a wet noodle first, since it's obvious that the last thing you need is a relationship.

A relationship is the only thing my life is lacking at the moment.
I have to start somewhere and I will pick up some self confidence regarding homosexuality and unfamiliar social situations along the way or learn it from my future online dating boyfriend.
At least that's my plan.

Well, good luck either way.

Tried it, did a few dates, sucked.
Just go to a public place (the park is the best place in my opinion), and met some people. Trust me, it works

Try plenty of fish(pof.com) it's free.
Not the best site in the world, but you won't be paying to not get dates.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
What's your experience with online dating?
What websites did you use, was it worth it, etc.

I just created a parship profile and think about whether I should pay for a premium account or not, because there are some guys that look cute (photos are blurred though) and they gave surprisingly cute answers to the parship questions. I'd probably chicken out and be unable to write to anyone of them though...

The tricky thing about online dating, is that nobody knows what you really look like in person

I was in a transatlantic relationship for 5 years. We took it in turns to visit each other whenever we could (extremely rarely). It wasn't easy, but I wouldn't have changed a damn thing.
That said, I don't plan to do it again, either. If you find someone right it becomes an interesting romance because all you can REALLY do with each other is talk. My particular relationship started in SecondLife. I think lasted so long because we kept it open and extremely honest, but I guess it's different for everyone.

But as for actual dating sites? I managed to make a good friend through Pounced. We fooled around a couple times but nothing substantially romantic. Other than that I think I've made a few online friends whom I've never met in person.
It's a system that's far from ideal but I have a hard time finding anyone relatable out there in the real world (too many idiots!). But hey, there's no harm in trying right? Oh, unless you're paying. Bare in mind that unless a service is free, the number of users to pick from might be rather small..

ippiki_ookami said:
why would you pay for online dating when you can just go out and meet people for free

I found my mate via Steam; you?

I'm happily married.

Just thought I'd let you all know.

I met some friends through pounced. One has been living with me for about 7 months now and I still really like having him around. x3

null0010 said:
I'm happily married.

Just thought I'd let you all know.

You always know how to brighten a depressed persons day, eh? By making them realized that at least others are doing better off then they are themselves.

(Jayfeather) said:
You always know how to brighten a depressed persons day, eh? By making them realized that at least others are doing better off then they are themselves.

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She's married to another appliance. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
scared of teh gay bar

This really depends on where you live, and the kind of people in your area. So this info is needed for a proper reasoning.
Such as
If you're in San Francisco, you just wave your bare-naked ass out of a window, and you'll find plenty of gay guys
But if you're in Alabama, you have to do secret rendezvous with people on the internet in dirty bus stop porter-potties.

Well, theres this. 10 advantages singles have over couples

Why would I want to date anyone? They always complain that I put the wrong month down, that I'm putting the date on the wrong part of their body, or that I'm using the wrong sort of marker for their skin type.

TheHuskyK9 said:
Tried it, did a few dates, sucked.
Just go to a public place (the park is the best place in my opinion), and met some people. Trust me, it works

So you just lie around bare-chested on a towel in your local park and wait for hot, cultured and manly guys to pick you up and take you to paradise?
What are you supposed to do while waiting for your prince?
Reading a book while lying on grass is the worst. It's too bright or too dark, uncomfortable. Are books like "Gödel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid" too
scary and make you seem unapproachable?

Hammie said:
Try plenty of fish(pof.com) it's free.
Not the best site in the world, but you won't be paying to not get dates.

Let me take a look, they don't really look centered around Austria though.

titaniachkt said:
The tricky thing about online dating, is that nobody knows what you really look like in person

I am starring in smoking commercials, so I guess I am fine regarding that matter.

elad said:
I was in a transatlantic relationship for 5 years.

I didn't mean literal online dating or a long distance partnership.
While that has a certain romantic vibe to it I plan to regularly get fucked by my eDarling.

Mario583 said:
I found my mate via Steam; you?

Please tell me more! What game, how did you meet, are we talking "real life" or "furry-internet-boyfriend"?

Rusteee said:
I met some friends through pounced. One has been living with me for about 7 months now and I still really like having him around. x3

Perverted freaks that get off to animal porn. Not exactly what I am looking for I guess.

There are tons of freaks on Pounced, but I've gotten in touch with some nice people there, and I'm going to meet up with some of them when I'm in England :]

Just saying that just because the place is a dump, doesn't mean there isn't treasure to be found.

Get a couple of your friends to give you some backup in a gay bar. If someone approaches you and your comrades, use the fact that you are a little pansy to your advantage and as a starting point in the ensuing conversation. Try to not make your friends uncomfortable while you flirt. Good idea for that would be to sponsor the alcohol for the evening. (You're regularly buying dozen of liters of grape juice, vegetable oil or other things anyway so this shouldn't affect you.
Other than that, you'll meet openly gay people in a gay bar, which is good for a relationship because at least on person should be openly OK with deviating from the norm.
And to the openly gay bit, this only means you acknowledge your gaybeing when someone asks or if you think it is important for your conversational partner and not that you have to tattoo it on your forehead, wear a pink "Look at me; I'm GAY!" Shirt and announce it per megaphone to everyone within a mile every 5 seconds.

Seriously, you make this more complicated than it is.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
So you just lie around bare-chested on a towel in your local park and wait for hot, cultured and manly guys to pick you up and take you to paradise?
What are you supposed to do while waiting for your prince?
Reading a book while lying on grass is the worst. It's too bright or too dark, uncomfortable. Are books like "Gödel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid" too
scary and make you seem unapproachable?

You are supposed to do something, find someone who does the same thing and then start a conversation with them about the thing you are both doing.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
Please tell me more! What game, how did you meet, are we talking "real life" or "furry-internet-boyfriend"?

I know a couple people who got together through WoW, basically any game works where you have to talk to people and may need to create some sort friends to get ahead in said game.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
Perverted freaks that get off to animal porn. Not exactly what I am looking for I guess.

I'm not sure if you are one to talk, in the worst case you find the scum of society, someone who should be in a mental institute and not in your bed or you find someone who shares a hobby (being furry) with you and is still rather normal.

Also, go to a furry convention, there should be one or two in austria if I remember it right.

But no matter what you do, you sound like a horny teenager who hasn't found out about masturbation yet, no matter what you do and where you plan to go to find someone, take care of your hormones first and stop being so desperate about the subject. Confidence and being somewhat chilled is key, you'll have neither loaded.
And you seem awfully loaded.

I am a horny teenager on the inside.
Approaching the legal drinking age in America and seeing the couples I know already moving in together and carefully talking about taking it one step further just puts me on edge and makes me jealous. I don't want to remain the third wheel forever and seriously crave sexuality, romance and love, things that I only know from second hand and fiction. My exclusively heterosexual friends can only do so much for me.

I am not loaded, just "able to life an independent life if I wish to do so".

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
I am not loaded, just "able to life an independent life if I wish to do so".

I'm talking about your hormones and not about your money. Other people will know if you're flirting with them because you want to pursue a relationship or because your penis wants you to fuck anything that moves within a 5 mile radius. And I'm not going to explain how to take care of that problem.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
Perverted freaks that get off to animal porn. Not exactly what I am looking for I guess.

Seriously? You're asking people on e621. Do you happen to actually look at the images on this this site instead of the forum?

Plus not every furry is weird like that, you wouldn't know either of us were furries unless you asked. But even if you did ask I probably wouldn't tell you (Or play dumb and ask what the hell a furry is) unless I trusted you. I don't like telling people my fetishes.

All I can say to you, dude, is "good luck."

You obviously are going to need it.

You are me. I'm straight but other than that, I think you are me. If you really are me, then you need to listen to yourself when I say "I am a good person, I am handsome, funny, and smart, despite all the negative thoughts I may have. Forget about what I think of me, and start thinking about myself in a positive light. Think of what I have to offer a woman man. Think about the things that make me a good person and I will have the confidence to stand up to myself and say 'Hey me! Yeah, I'm talking to you! You can't bully me around anymore! I'm quitting the force! Here's my badge and gun!'"
Hope that helps.

Also, don't be afraid to tell people you're gay. If they have a problem with it, they can write an angry letter and mail it to their own posteriors in triplicate. I'm not saying you have to shout it from the rooftops, not that you can't if you want, but just be open. I think it will make you feel more confident about yourself.

Also also, ask one of your straight friends to accompany you to a gay bar or someplace where you plan to meet guys. It'll help immensely. I'm sure someone would be willing. I'd go with you myself but Austria is a bit of a drive... and a swim... and some more driving.

ctrl_alt_FIST said:
You are me. I'm straight but other than that, I think you are me. If you really are me, then you need to listen to yourself when I say "I am a good person, I am handsome, funny, and smart, despite all the negative thoughts I may have. Forget about what I think of me, and start thinking about myself in a positive light. Think of what I have to offer a woman man. Think about the things that make me a good person and I will have the confidence to stand up to myself and say 'Hey me! Yeah, I'm talking to you! You can't bully me around anymore! I'm quitting the force! Here's my badge and gun!'"
Hope that helps.

Also, don't be afraid to tell people you're gay. If they have a problem with it, they can write an angry letter and mail it to their own posteriors in triplicate. I'm not saying you have to shout it from the rooftops, not that you can't if you want, but just be open. I think it will make you feel more confident about yourself.

Also also, ask one of your straight friends to accompany you to a gay bar or someplace where you plan to meet guys. It'll help immensely. I'm sure someone would be willing. I'd go with you myself but Austria is a bit of a drive... and a swim... and some more driving.

Thinking about what I have to offer is a big problem. I think that my own insecurities, especially about homosexuality would make me unlovable to a homosexual man, they would overshadow my relationship all the time and I couldn't ever act naturally and relaxed.

My best female friend already asked me to go to a gay bar. She is one of those modern bisexual girls who thinks it's great to have a gay friend. Though as I said, just thinking about it makes me overly nervous...

Anyways, reading that made me happy for some reason.
If you want you can come over and live at my place for a week or something.
You just have to pay for the flight and write me a message. I will provide the bathtub, oil and grapes. You not being gay doesn't matter at all. Send me a picture beforehand though. I had one blind date and it was horrible because I knew after the first look: "I don't like that guys look, I am not an epitome of fashion at all, but what the fuck is he thinking having that hairstyle!"

Rusteee said:
Seriously? You're asking people on e621. Do you happen to actually look at the images on this this site instead of the forum?

Plus not every furry is weird like that, you wouldn't know either of us were furries unless you asked. But even if you did ask I probably wouldn't tell you (Or play dumb and ask what the hell a furry is) unless I trusted you. I don't like telling people my fetishes.

After the next major holiday I will delve into the top20 regarding the number of uploaded submissions and I am seriously into canine knots, so what I was saying was pretty imprecise. I think there aren't a lot of people that have masturbated to more different furry images than me. What I meant were punky social rejects with an unusual amount of non prosthetic metal on their skin. The whole "I'd rather be an artistic dropout instead of ever getting an well paying conventional office job!" characteristics. Those people represent a disproportionately high amount of "furries", at least those that appear as prominent figureheads. If you are not one of them and just see "furry" as one of your several fetishes, like I do, good for you. If not, don't mind me being judgmental, I am sure you are happy with the furry crowd and on the inside I am just jealous of your freedom.
I just take it as a given that most people that identify themselves as furry enough for joining a dating website for like minded individuals are like those people I mentioned.

Please stop jumping to extremes. No, you don't have to dump every single little personal detail on a person when asking them out.

Dating is a process. You start out acknowledging an attraction based on relatively simple, easily-defined attributes. If that works out, you continue seeing each other and try to expand your relationship with deeper emotional, psychological, and physical connections (or any combination of the three). You build relationships. They don't just pop in out of thin air.

That sounds like what you're expecting, though. If you're really set on establishing a successful, meaningful relationship that way...

Good luck.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
What I meant were punky social rejects with an unusual amount of non prosthetic metal on their skin. The whole "I'd rather be an artistic dropout instead of ever getting an well paying conventional office job!" characteristics. Those people represent a disproportionately high amount of "furries", at least those that appear as prominent figureheads.

I've met a couple weird ones through pounced but they're not always that bad. But like with ANY online site some might be creepers. It's not just furries who are the weird ones. Maybe you should try a dating site and just say you're looking for friends and whatever happens happens. I met the guy who's living with me through a someone I met on pounced. Making friends can get you some more connections. :3

Also sometimes it seems like the weird ones stick out like a sore thumb while the nicer ones just kinda sit back and try not to be noticed. There's plenty of nice furries out there but there's also lots of perverts.

Just be careful, the first BF I met online was really good at lying. Don't make compromises and if you're going to meet someone online do it in a public place.

Der_Traubenfuchs said:
Thinking about what I have to offer is a big problem. I think that my own insecurities, especially about homosexuality would make me unlovable to a homosexual man, they would overshadow my relationship all the time and I couldn't ever act naturally and relaxed.

My best female friend already asked me to go to a gay bar. She is one of those modern bisexual girls who thinks it's great to have a gay friend. Though as I said, just thinking about it makes me overly nervous...

Anyways, reading that made me happy for some reason.
If you want you can come over and live at my place for a week or something.
You just have to pay for the flight and write me a message. I will provide the bathtub, oil and grapes. You not being gay doesn't matter at all. Send me a picture beforehand though. I had one blind date and it was horrible because I knew after the first look: "I don't like that guys look, I am not an epitome of fashion at all, but what the fuck is he thinking having that hairstyle!"

I'm glad I made you happy. And thank you for for the invitation. Do you treat all your guests to a bath while you oil yourself and feed them grapes, or am I special? hehe

Seriously, I can tell you're lovable from all the way over here, I mean you've got me wishing I could afford to fly halfway around the world just to meet you. For someone like us, being relaxed and natural doesn't come easily. Give it time. You have to overcome that first obstacle, uncertainty. Once you break the ice and start talking, things will get much easier.

The only way I ever got any attention from girls was to be funny. Joke around, be lovable, be yourself. Something will turn up eventually. When it does, you be ready with the grapes, oil, and bath. hehe